Mizzjuicyflava 2011-02-25 21:06:14

Im sorry for your loss. I recently lost a very close family member. They I coped is that I lived my life as she was still alive. THE love and advice she gave to me I shared it with others. In my heart she is still alive. So you my friend will grieve for awhile. But dont let it consume you. It will take a long time heal. Your are not alone. Remember that your father will always live in your heart and you can take him everywhere you go. My prayers go out to you and your family.

Dubbi 2011-02-25 21:20:50

I feel for you, man. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

razorbladesigh 2011-02-25 21:30:59

I'm sorry for your loss bro.

FirstBaby 2011-02-25 23:39:38

Every night smeel something that was your grandfathers. Then every second night sleep next to a portrait of him and count to 50 by 2s

FirstBaby 2011-02-26 00:30:30

Do it still. Trust me

Dromedary 2011-02-26 19:06:57

That fucking sucks. Sorry for your loss, man. In all honesty, I think that NG is a good place to talk to people about stuff like this. It's surprising how many people actually care.

Ericho 2011-02-26 22:12:16

Wow, that's terrible. At least you are properly honoring his memory.

EyesAdrift 2011-02-27 23:08:29

You are man, I think he would love your idea of the cremation and spreading his ashes on his favorite fishing spot. Shit gets rough here and there, shit like this is what makes us stronger shapes us into who we are supposed to be. It sucks losing someone, even if you aren't all that close to them.

Hell I don't know how I'd react if my biological father died, I haven't spoken to him in almost 12 years now.

Keep your chin up, you've got people who care about you and will be there for you. He's always going to be with you in your heart.

Drony 2011-02-28 10:46:31

I'm really sorry about that man. I wouldn't know what to do if I was in your position.

Tycrane 2011-02-28 13:15:07

Damn man, I feel so sorry for you. Hope you try to live on for your father's sake and whenever you look up into the sky think of him and all the things that you've been through. He'll be there for you always.

R.I.P.

Here's a song for you: <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_its6T5GT8">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_its6 T5GT8</a>

Life goes on.

Gagsy 2011-02-28 15:10:58

I'm so sorry to hear about this.

Just think though that at least in his final years you guys got to spend a bit more time with him. It's sad that his life ended the way it did and that you had such poor contact with him over the years but it's nice that you got something with him.

If fishing was your dads hobby then I think getting him cremated and having the ashes spread there is a wonderful idea. I imagine he would be grateful for that.

Once again I'm sorry and I hope you feel better in time.

BrazilianNinja 2011-03-01 16:26:04

Oh, okay.

Lol.

Spilda-Bongwata 2011-03-06 21:04:49

Keep being there for your family, they'll need it. Hopefully you'll handle it better and can help them out with their sorrows. My dad is an alcoholic too, and a workaholic. This caused a massive distance between, us but he is still my father. I still love him.

I have been to 2 funerals in the last 2 years - one for my grandfather and one for my uncle. I can only imagine what it feels like to lose a father or a sibling, my dad was devestated. I wish you luck, don't let it throw you into depression/hold you back.